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Sexual attractiveness

Clichés and myths

So an ideal female would be in her 20s with a childish looking face, with big breasts, small nose, big lips and with ‘happiness’ written all over her ‘blonde Barbie’ personality, and an ideal man would be in his 40s, proud, sexy, non-smiling, and wealthy of-course, with his Prince Charles personality.


God created Nature that is full of Chaos

Where no two things are equal

Where no sound, no colour, no shape is repeated

Man copied God and created

Symmetry, mathematics, music, straight lines

Man copied God and created Harmony


Together Man-made perfect elements create an Absolute Disorder

Together God-made imperfections result in an Ultimate Harmony


Nataša Pantović, The Art of 4 Elements


People often follow clichés and myths about what makes someone sexy leaving the Industry’s Big Brothers an amazing playing field to develop a complex set of marketing rules and launch 100s of products that exploit and manipulate the subconscious traits that govern the everlasting game of sexual attraction.


Our sensitivity to beauty seems to be encoded within our make-up and shaped by our evolution. We love to look at facial symmetry, smooth skin, long shiny hair, and sexy bodies because they all convey the same message – this person is healthy and strong, it has more robust genes hence our offspring will survive. The Greeks believed that there are three ingredients to beauty: symmetry, proportion, and harmony. Plato wrote of so-called ‘golden proportions’ that is found as beautiful in nature, humans and works of art, in both music and painting. He talks about the ‘golden ratio’ of 1:1.618 that is found in spirals, leafs, and growing patterns in Nature... The ration between the width of the mouth and the width of the nose fits this ratio. The symmetry between the left and right sides of the face is also very important to a human perception of attractiveness.


The Western beauty gurus have their-own stereotypes preferring females with a small jaw, smaller nose, large eyes, longer and more slender legs, curved hips and larger breasts, spiralling the growth of surgical interventions that enhance these parts of the body.


In 2011, chasing their ideal of beauty Americans had nearly 14 millions cosmetic procedures including collagen and botox injections, breast implants, buttock lifts and nose jobs. Breast enhancement is still on the top of the list of surgical procedures amounting to 307,180 breasts implants in 2011. If you multiply this number by 10 – a number of years of this ‘false tits’ frenzy - you will come to an approximate but still amazing number of 30 million women who had breast implants in the US.


Physical traits often associated with masculinity are height, firm mussels, broader shoulders, and smaller hip-to-waist ratios. Plastic surgery statistics in the UK tell us that a record number of male 'tummy tuck' operations were done in 2011, a demand that outshines even the women's breast enlargements.


The ‘ideal’ face is often described as ‘baby’ face that sends messages to our eternal Self searching for innocence, virginity, and purity. In Japan ‘child-like’ preference in female faces is further manipulated by sex shops offering used panties for sale with the odour of schoolgirls’ body. In the Land of Rising Sun, this fascination with schoolgirls’ virginity is also used by dozen of magazines that are devoted to bura-sera photographs, pictures that feature girls in school uniforms holding up their skirts to display their panties.


That brings us to the scent as an ingredient to the sexual attractiveness. Let me smell your pheromones (scented sex hormones) and I will tell you what I think about you... Smelling one another's hands or faces is a nearly universal human behaviour. Pheromones were first defined in 1959 as chemicals animals excrete to attract their mates. The evolutionary bouquet offer a wide range of proofs for this behaviour: a male dog pursuing the scent of a female; monkeys that rub the urine on their feet to attract mates, etc.


Laboratory researchers have found many relations between the scents and our moods:


• A trace of lemon increases people's awareness of their health;

Lavender contributes to a pleasant mood;

Sandal wood relaxes the mind and de-stresses the body


Such findings have led to the development of aromatherapy.

Interesting facts about perfumes on the Net tell us that in Victorian England, a nice-smelling young lady could sell handkerchiefs scented with their body odour!

Many perfume makers would love to see their scent as a magic potion increasing hugging, kissing and sexual attractiveness. However, women who believe that the use of ‘sexy’ perfumes will attract men, may be misguided. Researches show that a women’s sensitivity to musk, an ingredient used in perfumes, is 1000 times greater than men’s.


A study conducted by the Smell and Taste Research Foundation in Chicago discovered that a variety of odours can increase penile blood-flow. These odours included pumpkin pie, liquorice, doughnuts and lavender, and oriental spices.


What people find attractive has been shaped by centuries of evolutionary and cultural forces. Some evolutionary theories suggest that females are attracted to stern, silent and dominant males because they convey that they are strong and valuable hence able to provide for their offspring. Some of them even link smiling with a lack of dominance, an emotion best left to females. A fact that most men marry younger women led to researches proving that men prefer younger women and women prefer older, wealthier men.


So an ideal female would be in her 20s with a childish looking face, with big breasts, small nose, big lips and with ‘happiness’ written all over her ‘blonde Barbie’ personality, and an ideal man would be in his 40s, proud, sexy, non-smiling, and wealthy of-course, with his Prince Charles personality. Their sexual relationship would be blessed with for-ever lasting attraction that is scented by various odours of doughnuts and lavender.